Weddings

This long weekend I get to go to a family friends wedding. I don’t really remember going to many weddings and in general I never really liked or understood it. Especially Indian weddings! If you know nothing about Indian weddings pretty much all you need to know is that it lasts forever.. usually 4 days or so, it involves a lot of greasy, deep-fried, sugar filled, gonna increase your change of heart attack yummy food. Its always very colorful, and full of gold (as it was the original traditional gift to give… now of course the modern world prefers a stack of presidents/prime ministers).

I always believed that religion is between a person and God (or whatever they believe in) and that weddings are the feeling between two people, everyone else has no place in it. Sure if someone close to you decides that they want to spend their life with someone that you will be happy with them maybe even want to celebrate but the thing is why do such fancy ceremonies. Why all the stress and expense just to please everyone. If you call people then because you called them you also have to call all this other people you really don’t care about and you get to pay for it. I really think that bachelor parties and stuff is where you go an celebrate with anyone who wants to be happy for you and that the actual wedding is just with the closest of people. Weddings should not be family reunions, they should not be places to show off the latest Prada suite or Saatia Paul wedding ensemble. Who really cares about all that junk anyway? If your in love then celebrate your love and that all it should be.

Apparently all girls are suppose to dream of their weddings… so here is mine…
Option 1: its winter, I go to the mountains have a small ceremony max 10 ppl and get married
Option 2: Its not winter...we go to city hall, we sign the papers, then we fly off to some tropical place all inclusive.
And yes with both the options cash will be the accepted gift

So now that my dream weddings are planned, I just need one more thing…. Hmmm what could I be forgetting… ohh yeah the dude I’m going to marry… how silly of me

Distance

Distance is something that I find to be so odd probably because its all relative. Some times the same thing can be seen in so many different ways by different people in different times. The thing that intrigues me so much is the barrier of distance between two people. I don’t only mean in a physical lovers sense but more so the distance between two people. I don’t know what worst. Being so close to someone you love and having to be so far in terms of distance you live in or being so close to someone that you are in the same city, area, block, apartment, room but having your soul feel so far from each other. I’ve moved around a lot of the past four years and every four months or so I’d have to pick up my stuff and leave everyone I was close to for a new destination. However the odd thing is that whenever I left to go to a new place, my relationship with the people I was closest to always for some reason grew stronger. And after that separation when we are finally within a couple minutes to each other that we are no longer as close.

So does it really hurt more to love someone and be so physically far from them or does it hurt more to be so physically close to them but have your hearts/souls be so distant? Is it worst to turn over on you bed and have an empty spot for someone or is it worst to wake up next to someone you feel so distant? Does one potentially cause the other some how. Are the expectations different? Is there a greater gain from being apart from someone you love because you enjoy every moment you do have all that much more?

I don’t know the answer to this, or if it even has an answer but the closest thing I can compare it to is if you don’t eat chocolate for a month and you finally get a small quantity of it, it doesn’t even matter what kind it really is but you will enjoy it so much. Where as if you eat it everyday then you are pickier about the type you want or the flavors or what store you might even get it from. This leads me to yet another question; does a physical barrier to something we want or love actually drop our expectations which we would normally have?

DD: Bonsai

Ontario

As my time here in Ontario seems to be winding down I decided to do what I always do (its human nature after all), to have a top things I will miss list. Yes, even though I have cussed out most of your province there are still sometimes that I will surely miss… and other which I will not.


10 things I will not miss
10. The Ontario mountains… which are really hills but Ontario ppl don’t know the difference
9. Having to go down to hell to ride the subway
8. Random news flashes of someone getting shot in a place you often go to
7. All the ‘homeless’ people who are capable young adults
6. Hearing constant Mandarin and other incomprehensible languages in public places
5. The TTC smell
4. PST
3. All the construction road closures which don’t have detour
2. Traffic on the 401 and DVP/404
1. The Smog

10 things I will actually miss
10. Highways
9. Cheaper Gas prices
8. Having constant events, celebrations happening
7. Getting Indian and English movies for cheep
6. Being able to work/speak/use my French
5. Awesome Transit systems
4. IW Hockey
3. Campus Rec Sports
2. All the friends I have made while at UW and Co-op
1. My sister