Love and Pain

Love and Pain,
Sunshine and Rain.

The question on my mind today is, what hurts more. Being hurt by someone you love, or hurting someone you love. Does the receiver or the giver have the larger burden? We all are humans and we all make mistakes in life. Sometimes these mistakes or oversights hurt the ppl we care about the most. Is it a harder burden to forgive someone who has caused you pain or is it harder to be the one who ended up hurting someone and having to wait for them to forgive you?

In the movie sisterhood of the traveling pants (or something like that), there was a part in the movie where this chick ended up getting mad at her friend instead of dealing with the real issue. But her friend instead of hating her supported her and urged her to see what the real problem was. In the end the girl realized that we end up hurting the ones we love and can depend on because we are unable to face the real problems. In some sense we create tension with people who we know will still love us and forgive us in order to hide from the real situation. In relation to the question above, is it harder to be the one that has to be latched out at as the friend or is it harder to be the one with the troubles? Is there really one role that is worst? Or do we end up playing both sides in different situations?